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Moving a parent to Assisted Living or Nursing Home: Tips for dealing with a house full of belongings

Updated: Dec 18, 2019

You find yourself with the daunting task of not only moving a parent into an assisted living or nursing home, but also dealing with a house full of 40 plus years of accumulation. It’s a series of chores that can be emotionally, physically, and financially overwhelming. Figuring out what to do with everything can seem impossible. Here we share some tips to help ease the way, plus some shared thoughts of others who have been through it.


First off, go easy on yourself. It is OKAY that you don't feel the desire to go rent a storage space and keep every little item in the house in honor of your parent. There are probably a few items that hold special meaning, but the reality is a house full of souvenirs from trips you didn't take and mementos of a life you didn't live. It is natural that you have less attachment to those things, and it is no disrespect to your parent! So, the first step is to let yourself off the hook!

Do a sweep of the house and gather the obvious items you treasure. Look for things like old handwritten letters, treasured recipes and old photos. Take those home for another time. They are small and easy to store. IDEA: Those old letters you find will be great things to read aloud to your parent in the nursing home.


LOOK FOR and gather important documents you may need later: Checklist below

____ Marriage certificates ____ Life Insurance policies

____ Birth & death certificates ____ Auto Insurance policies

____ Adoption certificates ____ Mortgage documents

____ Citizenship certificates ____ Credit card statements (current)

____ Veteran’s papers ____ Recent tax returns (a great resource)

____ Health records ____ Stock Certificates

____ Current passports / Drivers Licenses ____ Current Legal contracts

____ Vehicle titles / Registrations ____ Property Deeds

____ Will and trusts

____ Powers of Attorney (medical - financial - general)


Make sure you have space for all the items you are thinking of keeping. Try to focus on keeping the items that feel meaningful and irreplaceable. IDEA: take pictures of Special furniture and items with special meaning, create a photo album just for those!


This one you may already be experiencing, you are overseeing a house full of belongings, talking to siblings, grandkids, cousins and nobody wants anything! Maybe one or two items and those items aren't what you expected them to choose at all! How come no one wants mom's gorgeous dining room set?! Well, the reason they don't want it is probably the same reason YOU don't want it. They already have one or it's not their style or they move around often and it's too big. We currently live in an "IKEA" world where "less" is in fashion. Society today is more mobile than it ever was, people move often and can't lug large furniture.


You are not alone! Below are actual quotes from people in your spot:


"I was confusing loving my parents with loving all the stuff they left behind"

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"If it doesn't bring you joy, let it go. We should never have to feel guilty for ridding ourselves of clutter or things that take up precious space. If your family members don't like you getting rid of it, they can either take it or deal with it".

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"In that regard, the only way to separate junk from good is to look at what my heart responds to. What holds happy memories for me? The rest can go out and find someone new to love it".

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"I realized my retention efforts were futile: I could hold on to her memories without her stuff, just as she had always remembered me, my childhood, and all our memories without ever accessing those sealed boxes under her bed. She didn’t need papers from 25 years ago to remember me, just as I didn’t need a storage locker filled with her stuff to remember her."



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